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Journal, letters and red flags are never sent to us. No feed, no followers.
How to get over your ex while you still miss him
If you still miss him, there's good news and bad news.
The bad news: you can't decide to stop missing him.
The good news: you can decide what you do with it tonight.
For the first time, not texting him feels like winning, not like holding your breath
It counts every day since you last contacted him, and only reaching out resets it. Slip anyway, and every milestone you already reached stays yours. Count your days free, right now.
At the moment you're about to break, you're not alone
One button on the home screen. Tell it what you're about to do: text him, call him, look at his profile, or nothing, you just feel awful. It takes you through that exact moment, and nothing you tap there is saved.
All the relief of sending it. None of the regret
A thread that looks like your chat with him, but nothing in it is ever delivered. Say the angry part, the part you'd delete, all of it.
Your clearest day protects you from your hardest night
On a good day, write down what was really wrong, one small, specific thing at a time. On a bad night, the app hands them back in your own words.
Check in on yourself instead of checking on him, and you start to feel like you again
One tap on how today really was, and a reply written for that answer and that day, not a quote for everyone.
Everything your friends are tired of hearing finally has somewhere to go
Never an empty page: tap one of 5 first lines and the sentence has already started.
You start believing you'll actually get over him
Your week of check-ins in one row, and every milestone you've reached, with its date. They stay, even if you slip.
Everything else in the app
Works offline
2am on a bad signal still works. Nothing waits on a connection.
Milestones
Day 1, 3, 7, 14, 30, on to 90. Every one you reach stays yours, even if you slip.
Mood calendar
Your week of check-ins in one row, so one bad day reads as one day, not as you.
Streak recovery
Break no contact and you keep the days you earned. The count restarts, not you.
Calm practices
Box breathing for the moment before you unlock his chat.
Day-one setup
Days already spent apart count. The tracker starts at your real number.
No ads, ever
Nothing in here is selling you a course, a coach or a crystal.
I built the app I needed 11 years ago
11 years ago, a breakup I never saw coming put me in a loop for a month. Old photos. Rereading her letters. Sitting at home, waiting for a message that never came.
Then I saw a photo of her, smiling with friends. She was fine. I had handed someone who was now a stranger control over everything I felt. That was the day I decided to take it back.
Today I'm married, and happier than I've ever been. Not because I found someone, but because I rebuilt myself first.
I've spent the 11 years since learning everything I can about getting over someone:
- NLP Master Practitioner
- A community of 60,000 people going through a breakup, for 8 years now
- The Unbeatable Heart podcast, 125 episodes since 2019
- 48 articles on this blog
I'm also a software developer, so I built the app myself. Every screen was made for one moment: the one where you're about to text him.
I'm not a therapist, and the app isn't therapy. It's 11 years of what I've learned, in something you can hold at 2am.
Questions
The ones people actually ask
Can he see any of this?
No. The journal, the unsent letters and your red flags live on your phone. There is no feed, no profile and no one to follow you.
Can an app really help with a breakup?
Yes. It takes you by the hand, one day at a time. Every day, it asks how you are. On every hard night, it tells you what to do next. And it keeps showing you how far you've come, so you don't have to get over him on your own.
Will this help me get him back?
No. It is built for the opposite: to help you stop needing him to come back.
What happens if I text him?
You keep every milestone you already reached. The counter restarts, and what you earned stays yours. Breaking no contact resets a number, not your progress.
How do I know it works?
You don't have to take our word for it. Give it 3 nights. If it hasn't helped on even one, cancel and you pay nothing. We'll remind you the day before.
Does it work without signal?
Yes. Everything except the install works offline, which matters because 2am on a bad connection is exactly when you need it.
I have already been apart for weeks. Do I start at zero?
No. Day-one setup asks how long it has been and starts the tracker at your real number.
Is this therapy?
No, and it does not pretend to be. It is a counter, a nightly check-in and somewhere to put the words you were about to send. It is not medical care, and not a crisis service. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, call your local emergency number or a crisis line: 988 in the US and Canada, Samaritans on 116 123 in the UK and Ireland, Lifeline on 13 11 14 in Australia, 1737 in New Zealand.
Do you collect anything about me?
One thing, and it has a switch. The app counts which screens get opened, with no name and no account attached, so we can see which parts work. It never counts anything you write, how you said you feel, or anything at all from the hard-night flow. Turn it off in Settings under Application and nothing changes.
What does it cost?
3 days free, then $24.99 every 3 months ($1.91 a week), or $2.99 a week if you would rather pay week to week. Cancel any time in your Apple ID settings. No ads, and nothing in the app is selling you a course or a coach.
Have it on your phone before tonight
The night you'll want to text him is coming. When it does, you'll have somewhere to put it.
Download NowP.S. If you scrolled straight down here, this is the whole page: you don't have to stop missing him to get over him. You need somewhere to go at the moment you're about to text him, and that's what I built. Give it 3 nights. If it hasn't helped on even one, cancel and you pay nothing.
Banuel
3 days free, then $1.91 a week ($24.99 every 3 months), or $2.99 a week. Everything unlocked, no ads, and nothing in the app is trying to sell you a course or a coach. iPhone only. Renews until you cancel, which you do in your Apple ID settings. For ages 18 and over. Terms and Privacy.