Notes for the nights it is loud
Short, specific writing about no contact, the 2am urge and the slow part after. No advice from strangers, just what actually helps.
A Letter to My Ex: I Hate You
The letter I wrote to my ex and never sent. Everything I gave, everything I lost of myself, and why I won in the end.
Bad Feelings Are Really Important After a Breakup
Why fighting sadness after a breakup only adds anger, guilt and regret on top of it, and what to do with bad feelings instead.
Focus on the Good Things After a Breakup
"What do I do now?" After a breakup, "we" becomes "I". Why new does not have to mean bad, and a simple list to start with.
How to Deal With an Unexpected Breakup
A heart breaks in a second and takes months to mend. What I learned when my own breakup took me completely by surprise.
It's Really Hard to Let Go
Everyone tells you to let go. What letting go actually asks of you after a breakup, why it is so hard, and why it is still worth the courage.
Thank You for Breaking My Heart
Gratitude feels impossible right after a breakup. Why it helps anyway, and a gratitude exercise that includes a thank-you note to your ex you never send.
Your Ex Doesn't Matter Anymore
After a breakup it is easy to keep living by your ex's opinion. Why it is time to stop, and to put your own life first.
Are You Really Over Your Ex?
How do you know when you are over your ex? Three signs that the breakup has become a memory, and what to do once you get there.
Do You Think Your Ex Was Perfect? This Is for You
Why we idealise an ex after a breakup, why it keeps us stuck, and a simple writing exercise to see the relationship as it really was.
Heal Your Body to Heal Your Heart
A breakup hits your sleep, your appetite and your energy, not only your feelings. Simple ways to look after all three while your heart heals.
How Long Will It Take to Heal Your Broken Heart?
Everyone wants to know when the pain will stop. Why there is no fixed timeline, and the one decision that starts the clock.
How to Move On After Being Cheated On
Being cheated on adds its own thoughts to a breakup. Why it is not your fault, why comparing yourself to the other person goes nowhere, and whether to give a second chance.
How to Stop Yourself From Texting Your Ex
Why one message costs more than it looks, and the one exercise that actually helps when you are about to send it.
How to Think Less About Your Ex
Trying to control your thoughts rarely works. Why changing what reminds you of your ex works better, and how to do it without regrets.
It's Time to Forgive Your Ex
Hating your ex feels like it should help you forget them. Why it keeps them in your head instead, and a letter that lets you forgive for your own sake.
It's Time to Listen to Your Heart
Nobody else gets to set the deadline for getting over your breakup. Why rushing yourself makes it harder, and why self-compassion comes first.
Should People Know About Your Breakup?
You don't have to tell anyone. But here is why letting the right people know usually helps, and how much to say at work.
Should You Run After Your Ex?
The messages, the calls, checking their social media. Three reasons chasing your ex hurts you, whether you want them back or want to move on.
Should You Speak With Your Ex After the Breakup?
The short answer is no. Why contact keeps the wound open, and how to keep it to a minimum when you share children, a workplace or a street.
Stop Blaming Yourself for the Breakup
When we cannot blame the ex we idealise, we blame ourselves. Why self-blame makes healing harder, and how to learn from your mistakes without living in them.
Stop Looking for Answers About Why Your Ex Left
Everyone wants closure. Three reasons digging for why it ended keeps you stuck, and how to find a reason you can live with instead.
Three Things Not to Do After a Breakup
Staying friends with your ex, running after them, and jumping into a new relationship too soon. What each one costs you, and what to do instead.
The 3 Mistakes You Shouldn't Make After a Breakup
Turning the pain into a catastrophe, feeling ashamed of it, and letting it decide who you are. Three mistakes that make heartbreak heavier than it has to be.
Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Your Ex
After a breakup your mind goes over and over the relationship looking for a reason. Why it happens, how to calm it, and how meditation helped me.
How Not to Go Back When You Have a Bad Day
A good week, then one song and you are crying like it is day one. Why a bad day after a breakup does not mean you are back at the start.