Moving on after a breakup
Moving on is slower than anyone tells you, and it rarely goes in a straight line. These posts are about the long middle: how long healing takes, how to be alone, how to stop blaming yourself, and how to build a life that is yours again.
Designing Your New Life After a Breakup
Once the worst of the pain has passed, you're left with a blank page. A three-step blueprint for designing a new life that's entirely your own.
The Skill Nobody Teaches: How to Master the Art of Being Alone
Loneliness drains you and solitude fills you back up. Three simple ways to get comfortable being on your own after a breakup, without rushing into someone new.
Why 'Time Heals All Wounds' Is a Dangerous Lie
Time alone doesn't heal a broken heart. Why passive waiting keeps the wound open, and how active healing starts with a promise and small daily wins.
Who Am I Now? Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem After a Breakup
After a breakup you can miss yourself as much as your ex. A three-step way to rediscover who you are, and how tiny promises rebuild self-esteem.
Is Your Home Haunted by Your Ex?
When their hoodie, their mug and your old photos are everywhere, home stops feeling safe. How to clear it out with the Goodbye Box method.
Stop Trying to Feel Better. Do This Instead.
Checking every morning whether you're healed yet makes it hurt more. Why to judge your days by actions, not feelings, with an action log and one daily habit.
The Unseen Gift: How Breakups Create a Stronger You
A breakup can be the start of real self-development. Why focusing on yourself beats replaying the past, and three small places to begin.
Focus on the Good Things After a Breakup
"What do I do now?" After a breakup, "we" becomes "I". Why new does not have to mean bad, and a simple list to start with.
How to Deal With an Unexpected Breakup
A heart breaks in a second and takes months to mend. What I learned when my own breakup took me completely by surprise.
It's Really Hard to Let Go
Everyone tells you to let go. What letting go actually asks of you after a breakup, why it is so hard, and why it is still worth the courage.
Are You Really Over Your Ex?
How do you know when you are over your ex? Three signs that the breakup has become a memory, and what to do once you get there.
How Long Will It Take to Heal Your Broken Heart?
Everyone wants to know when the pain will stop. Why there is no fixed timeline, and the one decision that starts the clock.
How to Move On After Being Cheated On
Being cheated on adds its own thoughts to a breakup. Why it is not your fault, why comparing yourself to the other person goes nowhere, and whether to give a second chance.
It's Time to Listen to Your Heart
Nobody else gets to set the deadline for getting over your breakup. Why rushing yourself makes it harder, and why self-compassion comes first.
Should People Know About Your Breakup?
You don't have to tell anyone. But here is why letting the right people know usually helps, and how much to say at work.
Stop Blaming Yourself for the Breakup
When we cannot blame the ex we idealise, we blame ourselves. Why self-blame makes healing harder, and how to learn from your mistakes without living in them.